Why Can’t I Attract a True Love!

Why can’t I attreact a true love? A psychic reading can reveal what is blocking you from attracting your true love, your soul mate, your twin flame. Honestly, I am asked this question often, regardless of whether my client is 16 or 76 years old. Everyone wants to experience that one great true love, that passionate love lived with reckless abandon. Everyone desires their energy field to shout from the rooftops, “I am in love!” for all the world to hear!

When I had my out of body experience 25 years ago, a bright being of pure blinding light moved into the room. Although no words were exchanged verbally, I heard this message and it has remained strongly with me all of these years; “you have no idea just how much capacity for love you hold inside of you, and I am here to help you to remember.” This being of light floated a few feet off the ground, when suddenly a large pure golden light came out of his heart and straight towards mine. My heart burst open as the love overwhelmed me. I felt my eyes roll back into my head and I blacked out. Can you imagine, feeling so much love that you can not sustain a conscious state? What I know from that experience is, that the love in our own heart chakra IS our truest love. Any relationship over and above your own true love of yourself is a bonus! Finding a love relationship helps us to experience the power of love within our own heart.

The spirit world is just a breath away from this human physical dimension and its state is pure bliss. There is nothing watered down about it. I also know, that no matter who I saw when I was out of body, I felt enormous love for them. I was not capable of feeling anything but pure love for everyone. This is where we are heading in the 5th dimensional world. A new world order where love comes so easily. A world in which we can not help but want to see everyone be their best version of themselves. We will want to be the best version of ourselves too!

Attracting our true love, means our soul is like a magnetic beacon of light that attracts another magnetic beacon of light. When your two lights come together, you both become lighter brighter and more expansive in everything you do. That love sparked by another, spills over into all of your relationships, into your work place, and even to strangers walking past your house. You are in love and in that moment you feel as if the entire world is in love right along with you. This is the love we are all looking, searching and hoping for!

So why do we find attracting our true love so elusive? The previous two blog posts sparked insightful questions about how much do you protect your heart? How much do you follow the wounded aspects of your heart to play it safe and not risk falling in love again? Click here to read one of the previous blog posts.

Discovering your own inner journey to finding your true love starts with you, because past hurts still hurt and you must be willing to heal. We want love to be easy, painless and provide everything we need. However, that is a script, a recipe, an outline of what your mind tells you love is in a relationship. I guarantee that if you simply follow your mind to attract your true love, it will never happen. There is no secret formula that someone can simply share with you.

Love is an energy, a huge magnetic energy that can not be described in words or thoughts. It is also not an emotion because emotions are a second chakra energy. It is a pure heart energy that goes beyond, words and overtakes your entire body and human energy field. The magnetic field of love is the strongest energy field of all of your chakras. Your heart love, when activated, can not be bridled. So again, if this is all true, then why do we struggle so much to attract our true love?

Your own life experiences dictate your ability to attract your true love, soul mate, or twin flame. How much you protect your heart, from love can literally push a potential love away. All that protection prevents the magnetic pulses of your heart chakra to reach its intended destination. If you have been wounded by love in the past, your wound creates filters that ultimately can block a true love from knowing your heart. Your wound frequency sets you up to send out signals that you want someone to help you heal your wounded heart. You find yourself constantly attracting someone to take care of you, protect you, and heal you. Or your wound is attracted to a mate that has a similar wound. You end up being drawn to them to help them heal their wounded heart, by over caring for them, protecting them, being steadfast in healing them, because you want to provide them with what it is that you need. Either way you are left with not being able to love and be loved with your whole heart.

We often think if we are prettier, sexier, smarter, or funnier then we will attract our true love easier. Again, it is not something you can mold yourself into if you want your true love. It might get a true love to notice you, like a peacock with feathers in full expression, but when the rubber meets the road, it is the deeper aspects of love that will sustain you.

I do have some simple self healing tips to share with you but I want to mention something else that I find when doing psychic readings. Often the client is searching for that long term, long life, forever love of someone to be with for your entire life. In the past, marriage for life was intended for the sake of survival. Couples worked together to keep the land and homestead stable. It was a working relationship. Having children and having many children was for the sake of survival and although there may have been great love there, again, it was a working relationship. A corporation in a sense and if you were lucky you just might really love the working relationship you have with your mate. So now, looking for a mate, while hanging on to a dream that this true love must last for your lifetime can cause you to discount many great relationships. You are just not able to imagine loving and living with them for fifty plus years so you walk away!

True love, soul mate love, twin flame love are all spiritual contracts and agreements between two souls. Sometimes you and another soul were only meant to have that strong attraction for a few months, a few years, or not at all. Maybe it was a strong relationship in a past life, but you were never meant to come together in this life time. I know, this can be very confusing to your human self. Cultivating a relationship with our higher soul self, can guide you through those tough confusing times when you feel such a magnetic pull towards another, or they feel a strong pull towards you.

Della, a client, came to see me because of troubles in her marriage. She and her husband had both been married previously. Della shared with me that she and her new husband, had been married for 3 years. They had only dated for 6 months in a whirlwind of romance before legally tying the knot. They were very happy, yet she explained, she was feeling more distant from her current husband. He was bending over backwards to make her happy, cheer her up and even created special outings to try and rekindle their initial spark. She wondered if she had made a mistake and maybe her true soul mate was still out there somewhere.

I asked her the name of her current husband and tuned in with my clairvoyant site to see what was going on with the energy between them. Della had a bright energy field, yet my clairvoyance was showing me that when her husbands energy moved closer to hers, the energy between them dropped and looked depressed and suppressed. I moved the energy around by infusing it with golden healing energy and suddenly out of the cloudy fog, I was able to see another male energy between them. It was Della’s ex-husbands energy standing right between she and her current husbands relationship. I was able to work with my healing tools to move her ex-husband out of the middle and Della immediately felt lighter and brighter. Della shared with me that recently a friend had shared with her that Della’s ex-husband was having regrets and wished he was still with Della. Her ex’s desire to be with Della, had covered and suppressed her current relationship with his depression of the loss of her. After a more extensive healing for all concerned, I was able to teach Della how to know when her ex husband’s energy was around and how to clear it on her own. Della and the love of her life, were able to feel that close bond again in their love for each other. You can do all the right things things to strengthen your relationship but you must also do the healthy energy things too!

The energy of old relationships can interfere with current relationships so much more than you may realize. Holding hands with your partner, your husband or wife and stating, “I own this relationship 100%, and I absolutely do not allow anyone else’s energy to come between me and my love. Both of you should contribute to this intention and refresh it, several times a year. Even children moving into a parents new relationship can really interfere with distancing you and your new love. The intention is the same, moving the energy to the outside of the couples relationship rather than in between can make a world of difference.

In my YouTube video, I will teach you a technique that you can easily apply to all of your relationships. My daughter named this energy technique “The bendy thing” when she was about 12 years old. She is now 37 years old, so that tells you just how long I have been using this technique. I love it because it is just that good and easy to teach clients.